Have you ever wondered if you are developing a dependence on some substance or behavior? Have friends or family ever implied or suggested that you have a problem? Have you ever felt the need to defend yourself, “I don’t have a problem. I can quit anytime I want to”?
If your answer is yes to any or all of these questions don’t you owe it to yourself to determine if you have or are developing a problem? It doesn’t matter if we are talking about substances (alcohol, oxycodone, nicotine etc.) or behavioral issues (internet porn, work, gambling, shopping etc.). All addictions have certain things in common, the “Three C’s”. Visit :- บาคาร่า สูตร
The addict has a strong COMPULSION to do whatever it is they are doing. It occupies their thoughts much of the time. They are looking forward to the next time they can do it. They manipulate situations and other people to create more opportunities or excuses for them to do their thing. The alcohol addict has been thinking about a drink all day. He wants to go to the bar with his buddies after work, but knows his wife expects him home for dinner and will create a scene if he’s late again. He reluctantly goes straight home. Once there, he feels tense and irritated and can’t stop thinking about how much better he would feel if he could just have a couple of drinks with the guys. After dinner he picks a fight with his wife, slams out of the house and heads for the bar.
The addict has little CONTROL over their compulsion. They may have the best of intentions not to do it again, but when the opportunity presents itself, they just can’t help themselves. The internet porn addict turns on his computer intending to complete a sales report that is overdue, but before he knows it, he’s on a porn site. He tells himself that he’ll just take a peek and then get back to work. Hours later, he is trying to come up with a plausible excuse to explain to his boss why the sales report isn’t done.
And finally, the addict will CONTINUE to do their thing despite serious adverse consequences. When the behavior causes problems in other areas of their lives, (relationships, medical, financial, social, legal, work etc.) it doesn’t deter them. The gambling addict heads for the casino right after work on pay day. Before the night is over, she has lost every cent. She has already missed two mortgage payments and creditors are calling continually. Her husband left six months ago as he wasn’t willing to live with her gambling any longer. He is threatening to sue for sole custody of the children.
If you think you recognize some of your behavior in the “Three C’s”, but are just not sure that you fit the profile, there is an easy way to determine if you have a problem. Simply, STOP doing what you are doing, not for a few hours or days but for 30 days. That doesn’t mean switching from whisky to beer, from internet porn to strip clubs or from gambling casinos to bingo. You need to stop all behavior related to the issue. During the 30 days, monitor how you feel and ask yourself “How comfortable am I in my own skin?” Your degree of discomfort (physical and emotional) is in direct proportion to the degree of dependency. The more uncomfortable you are, the more addicted you are. If you weren’t able to hold out for 30 days or if you felt miserable the entire time, you need to seek help. An addiction specialist can help you assess the problem and recommend an appropriate plan of action to deal with it.
For someone who has an addiction, stopping the behavior is the easy part. Staying stopped is the real challenge. The difference between a recovering addict and a practicing one is that the former has decided that they want to stop, made a commitment to do so and followed through.